Before I started this journey…it's like a different person…I think one word that would sum it up would be fearful. Every decision I made was based on fear for myself, for my children, for my family.

You are your own person. You have autonomy. You're connected with other people, but again, the other people's ways of living do not need to be imposed on you. We each need to come to our own decisions and actually allow ourselves the space and time to decide “How do I want to live my life?”.

When we resource ourselves, we support ourselves, we actually then have the capacity, we have the mind, the wherewithal to be able to figure out how we can then support and help other people. Then we are benefiting the global cause.

I didn't want to disappoint. I didn't want to cause somebody discomfort. It crushed my heart to see someone disappointed because of my actions. Now I know that they're responsible for theirs and I'm responsible for mine. And what I do doesn't need to determine how they feel.

And the healing journey infiltrates all areas of our life. So your faith is simply another area of your life. And it of course makes sense that you're going to have to reflect and consider, if you're like myself, do a bit of deconstruction around that. Because it's another facet of your life. So authenticity must start at home, in private, before you're going to be able to comfortably practice being authentic in a public space.

I am so happy to be here with you today, and thank you for choosing to spend time with me. Whether you're here because Empowered to Thrive is a podcast that you listen to, or you're here because healing from religious trauma is something that's very relevant to you, I'm glad to be with you, and I welcome all of you. So we are going to embark a little bit on my own story, if you're not familiar with it, and if you are familiar, you've been here along the way as I've shared parts of it, then you're going to get to hear an update, because it's been about a year since I've last talked on my deconstruction, and intuitively, it felt time for that subject again.

[…] what we're going through is just temporary. It's seasonal. It's going to pass, but sometimes those, you know, the breaths in between the passing go for days and miles and, you know, it could feel exhausting.  And while we're mindful of that, it's just now slowing down. It's not about trying to push or drive, but it's about taking it one day at a time. And in that one day at a time allows for us to grieve and handle each daily capacity for what it is, without trying to feel like we have to stretch beyond. 

Some things that I think are important that I’ve adopted as I’ve simplified my life and walked out of people pleasing and codependency, are knowing what you want the holidays to look like and then structuring your yes or no along those lines. So when you sit and ask what you want the holidays to be like, bullet point some of the values. Do I want it to be slow and low key? A time of connection? Spend a lot of money or not? Knowing what you value will help you be aligned with the season of life you’re in right now. There’s times we can be busy during the holidays and times we may need to slow it down and that may vary year to year.

Listen to my salad story and find out how that relates to the healing journey!

We are continuing the conversation about how you know that you are healing from codependency and people pleasing. I’m going to relay a story to you that happened at Panera Bread a few weeks ago. I wanted to get some work done so I brought my laptop with me and I ordered a salad with either a sandwich or soup. When I got my order, some of the lettuce leaves did not look fresh. In the past I would have thought to myself, “Ugh. I can deal with this. I don’t want to make a fuss or be an inconvenience.” Instead, I went back to the counter and asked them to remake my salad. I simply said the leaves did not look fresh and could you remake my salad.

Do you ever wonder if the work you're doing on the healing journey is actually changing and healing you? In today's episode we're going to talk about how you can know that you are moving in a positive direction!!

Do you struggle within your relationship? Do you wish your relationships could be easier, happier, with more emotional connection? Take a listen and learn how to change the dynamic of your relationships!

Today’s episode is about grief. Grief is a lonely place. First, it’s important that you have compassion and tenderness towards yourself during your season of grief. That you allow yourself to grieve for as long as you need. This time of grief for me, I needed to give myself time to walk through it. Since I allowed myself to feel the emotions, they were really intense. I wasn’t denying them or suppressing them. I wasn’t disconnecting from myself.

The healing journey infiltrates all areas of life and that includes what happens in the bedroom (or wherever you have sex!) Continue on your healing journey in the middle of sexual intercourse. In today’s episode I’m going to talk from my own story and end by sharing practical ways you can begin to restore feelings of safety within yourself during sex.

Do you want to know how to stop hating the reflection you see in the mirror? I can help you learn to recognize that even though it isn’t all perfect you can love yourself for who you are, and your body for what it has carried you through! You were made beautiful. Loving yourself is good for you. It’s toxic to hate yourself and constantly focus on flaws. Remember, healing happens over time.

We’ve always lived within our body, and our body stores memory. We consciously or subconsciously remember. Your body carries unresolved trauma. I'm going to share some practical ways you can self parent and help to heal yourself.

Today's episode is a lesson taken from my program Radically Change Your Life. Healing is complex and simplistic all at once. Join me and learn how you can help yourself heal!

Today’s conversation is for anyone who battles and deals with intrusive thoughts. Intrusive thoughts are anything that makes you think you have something to fear, you’re less than, makes you shut down or run away, or stops you dead in your tracks. It’s the thoughts that seem to run over and over in our minds or interrupt us in the middle of our day.

When defensive we feel as if we need to protect ourselves from a threat. When we feel misunderstood, judged, unheard, unloved it easily make us feel unsafe and on the defensive. As much as possible, during the conversation as you recognize that you're feeling the need to protect yourself, pause and remind yourself you are safe. Do your best to not interrupt as the other person is speaking.

Conscious awareness—recognizing your thoughts and being in touch with your feelings. Every day we experience sensations throughout the body. How aware are you?

I share about my personal life and explain what intuitive living looks and feels like. I’m also going to unveil some big changes coming for my family!