There's a time when we have to stand up from where we've been sitting, look ourselves in the mirror, literally or figuratively, and say, “I care about you and I'm here to help.”

We think that taking things into our own hands, we think that controlling will be a means of feeling safer, will be a means of getting the end result we want, but we really don't have control over any part of our life.

Having to keep it all together when I felt like crumbling. Taking it all on when other people weren't asking that of me. They were willing to take part of it off my plate but I wouldn't let him. I actually couldn't even see it.

As painful and as challenging as it is to feel the grief, it is necessary to moving through it. Within that grief is heartache and disappointment. It's anger and sadness. And that may be uncomfortable, but friend, I invite you to feel it. You don't have to feel it alone.

In many homes the full range of emotions are not tolerated. And certainly it's not modeled in knowing how to feel, what to do with our feelings, how to repair when there's a damage to the relationship.

Dysregulation to me sounds like when you can't focus and you're not in control of yourself and something else is in control of you and you can't handle anything well. You're not focused.

Today we’re going to discuss how to support your kids when you’re going through a difficult time. Maybe it’s a traumatic time. Remember, trauma is not about the event, it’s about how we interpret and experience the event. We can go through the same event and one of us feels like it was traumatic and the other feels like it was not.

Alyssa specializes in simplifying life for introverted moms (aka your stuff, your sanity, and your schedule). She has 11+ years’ experience balancing multiple kids while still getting time to recharge.

Today’s conversation focuses on how to deal with the stress of parenting, and how to teach children to be truly happy. Co-regulation is necessary for kids before we can expect self regulation. We come alongside our kids to help them emotionally regulate so they know how to manage their emotions. Parenting is stress inducing! It’s a hard job. Some say it’s a thankless job, but seeing my children grow up, be empathetic, love people well, and add beauty to the planet feels like a big applause.

Self parenting or reparenting is very healing. It’s imperative to experience feeling surrounded by love and supported. Feeling isolated and alone is a set up for anxiety, depression and despair. Safe loving touch that’s comfortable to you can help too. A hug can go a long way! Seek support that you trust as you process your triggers.

Calling all kids! Bring your littles around and take a listen. My 5 y/o daughter, Laella shares how she handles her emotions through the every day. We even touch on how to make chores more fun and what to do when you feel like sneaking some sweets.

It's time for change! Through self discovery and inner healing you can transform yourself. Listen to learn how.

Michelle Dixon, a Trauma Release Specialist, joins me today and shares a wealth of knowledge around the body and how we can give it the attention it deserves. Doing bodywork is a VITAL part of healing.

As I share about what toxic shame feels like I also remind you that there's another way to live! SO MUCH HOPE!

So much could be said on building depth and connection! I touch on what people pleasers and freeze types may need in order to feel safe enough to grow connection with you.