Heal Your Inner Child: An Excerpt from the Change Radically Program

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Corinne Powell: I'm very excited to share with you some excerpts from phase one of the change radically program. We are going to be talking and focusing on inner child today. And I hope that you will listen with all your heart because what I've shared with the members is not just for the members, it's also for you.

So I'm giving you an opportunity to join in and I'm very hopeful that you will find love and comfort from what you hear today. Enjoy the episode. 

Corinne Powell: Was inner child that concept new for any of you or are you familiar with it to a degree? 

Client 1: So I heard about it. I kind of read about it. I did some research about it, but it got to a point like, okay, I see that, I identify that, but now what? Like how do I get rid of this? 

How can I go to the next step and like, and, you know, and do something with all of those feelings and all of those situations. That's basically where I kind of mentioned that to you already before, but just that's where I am.

Corinne Powell: Yeah. Does anyone else feel like that's where they're at? They know, but they're not sure what to do with what they know. 

Client 2: I feel that way. You know, certain things and recognize certain things, but I -

Corinne Powell: You know, certain things you recognize certain things. And then what did you say at the end? 

Client 2: And then I'm like, I'll know, like, for instance, we've talked about, I'll, I'll see like why I react certain ways and I'm like, oh, probably because that's my dad. My dad was around when I was a kid. We'd say he's going to come, but he would never come. And sometimes I'd be like, I get so mad if like, let's go look at cars. And I'm like, he's like, why do you take this so serious? But I think it's my inner child.

But then I don't, sometimes I don't know how to respond. I recognize it. 

Corinne Powell: Yes. And the recognition is important. It's very important when we become aware, it's like we start to consider the kid we once were. So as we recognize that we're emotionally flashing back and I use that term, I read it in one of the books that was extremely helpful to me. And it was the first time so much of my life made sense because.

I know flashbacks, right? Like people have traumatic experiences and then they flashback. Emotional flashbacks was a new concept for me. And I realized I was literally living all day long in emotional flashbacks.

And so for me, it would be, I would have symptoms like I'd be super on edge, hyper vigilant. Like somebody dropped something, a loud noise. I'm like, whoa, what's going on? And it's like symptoms of complex PTSD, but it was never mentioned.

You know how some things are made a big deal out of, but emotional flashbacks, I think we all experience all day where, like you said, Mariah, something that happened when you were just a kid and your dad wouldn't show up, that might be triggered in you when somebody else falls through on their commitment and doesn't show up. And subconsciously, your inner child, your inner self remembers, oh, I've experienced this and this is painful. 

But it's also subconscious. You're just like, what happened? Why am I upset? Why am I sad? Why am I bothered? And so I think it is important, even when we don't know always what's the next step, what to do, to recognize that you are making steps forward in the recognition of. So if you're in a conversation, you realize, oh, I'm getting amped up. Something's triggering me. Just recognizing that is a step in the right direction. 

Because then you can realize, okay, it's not the person speaking and what they're saying, it's my past experiences and how I'm projecting them onto this current situation or onto this person's words. And it can help us to take the responsibility off of the person in front of us sometimes. And not back onto ourselves, but in a way where we're able to say, oh, there's something going on here. And it may not be about them. It's really about me and my previous painful experiences.

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Corinne Powell: Yeah, it is. And I appreciate you sharing and being vulnerable to share. And you're right. The body is going to always do what it can to protect us. And coping mechanisms, I strongly believe, are a gift for survival. And it's only when we learn that we are safe within our body, because we all might be safe in our surroundings and still feel completely unsafe and out of control because our body is remembering.

And in time, as we can feel safe within our body, we can let go little by little of our coping mechanisms. But there's no rush. Like, it takes time.

And I think in that, I guess I just want to acknowledge that healing takes time. And so we will see layers and degrees of healing. But to be compassionate towards ourselves, that what we've experienced is a lot in varying degrees. And to give ourselves the, just the permission to take the time we need. 

I'd like to just intuitively, like, speak to each one of you. I see so a lot of you have shared, and I appreciate that. And I feel like, you know, if you know me well enough, I could go on and on. Like, we could just spend all day here. But I will stick to my timeline.

I saw this picture of us just like all the kids, right, that you were. And just huddling, like, bringing everybody together. Like, think about like a team, right, and you're in this huddle.

And so if you can visualize that for your inner child. And if you're the kid you were, feel safe enough to come into the huddle. I want that little boy, that little girl to know that in this moment, in this moment, you are so loved. You are so safe. 

In this moment, nobody is allowed to hurt you. Nobody is allowed to do anything mean to you. And if they do, and I see them, I will tell them it is not okay and they need to stop. Because in this huddle with me there, nobody, nobody is allowed to mistreat someone else. And I want that kid you once were to know that you are so valuable.

And what you endured should have never happened to you. And I mean that. It should have never happened to you. You're dealing with the repercussions of it. And you are a brave individual. But it doesn't mean it should have happened.

And I want each one of you to know that you are worthy. You are worthy. You are worth being loved. You are worth being protected. I am angry that mom and dad did not do their job to protect you. I can say they had their own pain.

I can make excuses for them. But putting that aside, they were there as your parents and they should have protected you. And so I want to be one voice that says, you deserved better.

And that's why you're here in this moment. Because you did deserve better and you're going to receive it. And I say it oftentimes in sessions. We're buying back time. We're buying back time. We're going back in time. And we are bringing and infusing love and attention into moments when you weren't receiving it and you should have been. 

So whenever you're with me, you can feel free to come close. Visualize that kid you were coming close into the huddle. And I want to encourage you. I want to encourage you.

And knowing that I will never, I will never ever encourage anybody to mistreat you. And to harm you. And so I just release peace into the deepest parts of your being. I release love. Into every place that needs it.

That's your psyche. That's your mind. That's your body. That every part of you would know. That love is present here. That you would be able to feel. The tangible blanket of peace. That child you once were would be able to breathe deeply. Without having to look over their shoulder right now. Because you are loved and you are safe. This is not a love that will abuse you. That will mistreat you. This is a love that will be looking out for you. And making sure that what you need is what you get.

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Corinne Powell: And I think what you said is, is perfect. Like he's allowed to be afraid. You are allowed to be afraid. You know, and you seeing yourself as if you are, the eight-year-old, like your son, for each of us this is what, what you said is exactly what I would encourage us to do is see ourselves. Whether it's in our kids or just because we're able to see that younger part of ourself. And start to actually include your inner child in your everyday, when it shows up.

I was taking a walk with one of my girls around the neighborhood one time. Holding their hands. Very like.We live in a quiet neighborhood. So first off. Taking a walk around the neighborhood is something I. Can do easily with them.

And I realized this is our normal. And the little girl inside of me did not have any memories of experiences like that with my mom. But what I did was, I remembered the little girl I was.

And, you know, I didn't say anything out loud in that moment. Sometimes I do, but I just thought it. I saw her in my mind's eye and I thought it.

To the Corinne that was my daughter age, you know, I just, I just remembered for her, oh, you didn't experience this. And almost including her in the walk with my little girl, as if we're all three of us are holding hands. And so it is what we can do for, for our inner child.

We can start to pay attention and notice that part of ourself and start to bring that part of ourself in it. We start to integrate back into our body. So these parts of ourself that got disconnected, because at the time it was the way we survived.

It was all we knew. We start to bring these parts back in. And it's what makes us more and more complete and whole. And the goal isn't to not have any pain. I really don't see that as the goal. I feel like the goal is just that we experience more joy.

We experience more fullness in life. I don't know if the pain is ever going to be gone, but I can tell you 16 years in that it is the euphoric highs that I never knew before that aren't induced by other substances. They're simply because you experience depths and levels of healing and to feel safe within your own body, to like the person that you are, to not always see the negative parts of you when you look in the mirror, when you consider yourself, these are the gifts.

And so wherever you're at, what I can encourage you in is that you are going to move. We don't know how far forward you're going to move, but you're going to move forward. You're going to expand more into safety and love because little by little, any movement becomes a part of the whole.

So I just say that because I don't know where we're all leaving as we sign off. I don't know for some of you, if you're in a place where what we've talked about has stirred up the pain. And if you need to send me a voxer afterwards, that's what it's there for.

I mean, we can't do like a full on session in it, but it's definitely a place where you can express what's going on for you. And that's fine. I can always take the time to listen to what you express.

And so between now and next week, you'll get another email from me with another video where I'll focus on another topic and we'll dive into that some next week. And inner child is always something that can come up because it's just such a vital part to all of this healing. 

And continue through. You can use any part of the workbook. It goes along with a whole other series of videos. So that's why some of the questions may not feel relevant, but you can work through any of them.

And then vox me when you need and we'll be here next week. Same place, same time. I'm rooting for all of you. Very proud of you and sending much love your way. 

[Ending] We've come to the end. What did you think about what you heard? I hope that there's something you pull from today's episode and start implementing it into your life.

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I hope that you have a wonderful week, but no matter what your week is like in the moments that are quiet, maybe it's when you pillow your head at night or when you're driving in the car or taking a walk, or maybe it's going to be in the midst of the chaos with your children or, or the craziness of work. I hope that you'll remember how significant you are, that there is meaning and value to your life. And that I for one, I'm so glad that you're alive. 

Catch you again next week.