Transform Motherhood with Mariah Castico

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Corinne Powell: I am so excited for you to hear today's episode. I had my client and friend, Mariah, join me and share with you the changes that she's experienced in these last nine months or so as a result of coming alongside and working with me. She's been on her inner healing journey and it's proven very transformative. 

Why I'm excited for you to hear her share is because what she's experiencing is not just for her. It is for you as well. If there's anything she says that sparks an interest in you, please reach out to me. And just to give you a little bit of an idea on who Mariah is, she is a beautiful soul. She is a go-getter.

She's someone who does it once she puts her mind to it. And I'm so excited for you to hear her share. I share in the episode how I appreciate that about her because that is how you move yourself forward.

Sometimes we can't muster up something within ourselves. But Mariah is one of those people who is willing to do with what she hears. She takes action when she hears something. 

And if you've listened to me for any length of time, you know that's someone after my own heart because that's how I am as well. Mariah is a mom to two-year-olds.

She has two boys and she and her husband recently purchased a beautiful piece of property and they're enjoying farming their own land. So let's get to it. I want you to hear from Mariah herself. So enjoy today's episode. 

Can you share with us what life was like before you started coaching with me?

Mariah Castico: So life before coaching was... I don't want to say chaotic because it wasn't super chaotic. I mean, every mom when you have kids, it's busy and there's things that come up and you're just like, oh, this is my life. But I was more tense. So I feel like my kids were more tense. But at the moment, I was just blaming it on why are my kids like this?

And, you know, like, why does my marriage, everything just felt tense, like, because it was me. And really in my head, I'm thinking, I'm calm. I'm, you know, I'm, I'm working out.

I'm trying to eat good. Like, the morning would start great. And then I'd go to bed and it was just like the mundane of starting everything all over again.

And it wasn't, there was really not a lot of peace. It was just chaos all the time in the daily life. And then, you know, like your marriage, I had like marriage struggles and obviously like being a mom struggle.

And like, I felt honestly, like I wasn't a good mom because there would be more days of feeling that good versus good almost because I wasn't dealing with myself. I wasn't taking care of myself. I wasn't, I never asked for help.

I never, I would just, this is what you, when you're a mom, you give up yourself. Like, that's it. Um, and when I finally realized I need to do something for me, I was like, I was very into the fitness. And I figured, okay, now I got to work mentally. Like, this is not working.

Um, and then once being coached by you, I learned it was okay to be uncomfortable and it's okay to ask for help and feel I'm very like, you know, people pleasing in a way, but don't want to feel that uncomfortable feeling with someone doing something for me.

Like I'd rather do it for them, you know? But I was being coached that it is okay to feel uncomfortable and ask for help when you need it and to just let it happen.

Um, like there were times when, like, I would want to take a bath, but I wouldn't because I knew he just got home from work. So I want him to relax.

So I'm going to still take care of the kids and preoccupy them so they don't bother him, but no, he's home, it's his kids and he never told me I couldn't take a bath, but now I'm acting like he's telling me not to take a bath and he's not. So now I'm kind of resenting him and he's just like, what the heck did I do? And then that's what causes that friction.

And finally I would force myself to take a bath and I would last two minutes because I could hear them playing and I would feel like I have to be out there.

And then you've coached me and to like, learning to just stop in the moment and, um, just pause and like, no, that it's okay.

It is okay that you are taking a bath, like you are making yourself feel better. So now, for instance, like last night, I literally texted him going upstairs to take a bath because I just sneaked. So the kids tried to not follow me and I locked the door and I put my earbuds in and I put my phone on the little stool and I lay there and I watch an entire show like a half an hour.

And now I can actually like lay there and not want to get out. And that doesn't happen ever before. So you've taught me to like, be calm in that moment and just like, enjoy what's happening in that moment. And before that was so hard for me. And now I just like, you taught me to just basically communicate, like, can you please take the garbage out instead of me just walking by every day? 

And maybe he's a type of person that needs a reminder, but that doesn't, you taught me like, it doesn't mean he's not loving you or caring about you. You just have to communicate your need and then he will fulfill that need. And if, and then it's just a simple thing, but you feel like it's not in the moment.

So little things like that don't bother me anymore. It's not like I'm not feeling loved or safe. It's just me communicating my need to him. And then hopefully he does it. 

Corinne Powell: Yeah. Awesome. And how about with your kids? How do you feel like doing the inner work has changed the dynamic or affected that dynamic of your relationship with your kids?

Mariah Castico: I feel like obviously kids are kids and they have their days where they're sick and they're extra needy. But I've noticed a big difference in me, how I react to them.

Like sometimes I would just repeat myself 10 times. I said, get down. I said, get down. I said, get down. And I now like,  I just honestly communicate with them better.

And if Luke wants, like he was, my youngest is so needy. He wants me constantly. He has to be touching me. He has to be holding me as you know.

And now like when I do the dishes or anything, he doesn't want me to walk away from him. So I literally have been getting the kitchen chair. All right, here's a sponge.

You wash with me and there's no crying and he's fine with the sponge and he's next to me. And there's no crying. And I'm like, why didn't I ever do this? I think in my head, I just want to get these dishes done.

But like, I can still do the dishes and him hold the same fork. Like it's, it was, it's just a lot. And we have our days. Don't get me wrong. He's only two, but it's, I try so hard to be much better with that.

And you taught me once, maybe he just really needs because he sleeps in his own bed and my oldest doesn't. So maybe he needs that more closeness. Excuse me.

So every morning when he wakes up. I go in there alone, I sit on the floor and I put my head on his little bumper thing and I go, how'd you sleep? And then I just like rub his back and he says, good. Could we go outside? And then he kind of like wakes up happier and he knows now, like when he's ready to sit up or like get out of the bed, then I'll get up with him.

I don't really rush him out of the room unless like we're really are in a hurry. We have to go somewhere. Okay, hurry up. We got to go. And I'll just do it for like a second. But now like. Then when we go downstairs, it's more calm.

Like the day starts more calm and he might cry if I walk away or do whatever. But I've just noticed like they've been playing more together by themselves.

For longer periods of time where I'm like, are they okay? What are you doing up there? Like, and they've always played together, but I feel like now they have more of a piece of security. Like, okay, she's right.

Like, I do feel like they feel safer maybe. And not as tense because I'm not as tense. So that's, that has helped a lot. And now whenever they're like crying about something or they're mad that I won't get them French fries after they've had them, you know, Jackson's on a French fry kick. And I'm like, I love you and I hear you, but we're not getting French fries today.

Like, that's like my new thing I say to them. And then the crying kind of just, and then I don't respond. Like you've taught me also, you don't always have to respond to something. You can. I, I love. I love you. And I hear you. We're not getting them today. We're in the car. We're driving. Like you can cry. And the crying will just, it'll get loud. 

And then just, and he'll just start looking out the window. Like he like realizes I'm hoping like, okay, she heard me. She knows I want the French fries, but she said no. Yeah. I guess I'll stop crying.

And I just learned to listen to them. I can hear you. I always tell them, I hear you and I love you, but we're not going to do that. We're not going to hit. We're not going to do this. So that's really helped a lot.

Corinne Powell: That's awesome. Wow. So I got to say though, about you, you you're getting these amazing results, but you're very willing to apply yourself because what you're talking about doing with, with your kids, I feel like we touched on that one time, maybe minimally, but you ran with what we talked about and you started implementing it. 

And now here you are. I don't know, a few months later? And you've got results. So to anyone listening, I just want to reinforce, like you're getting the results, but you are putting action to our conversations. You don't just sit there and like, here, ask your questions, hear my feedback. You do something with what you hear.

And this is phenomenal because this is the good thing is it's not just you or me who can get these results. It's any of us who put action to what we hear about, you know?

Mariah Castico: Exactly. Yeah. And it's not easy. And there's, there's days that go by where I'm like, oh, and then I literally will stop.

And as I'm hugging, I'm like, okay, he probably just wants you to hold on. Just right. What am I trying to do? Laundry. Okay, here, fold the towel. Yep. Nope. Just sit right next to me. Fold the towel. Fold it. Oh, thank.

And now with his new thing, he always goes, I help you. I help you. And I'm holding a basket and bringing it. I'll help you. Now he wants to help all the time, which is fine. I think I get more frustrated when it's like, you're trying to hurry.

But then I try in my head really hard to just like, he just wants to be with you. Like, just calm down. It's going to be okay. He wants his mom. You're his mom and he wants you. Right. So it's been a lot, a lot better. He still is a cry baby.

But like he, like for instance, he likes to go on the computer now at night, we let him go on the computer on the kids too, but he looks at tractors and he wants me to sit in the room with him. And sometimes I would want to go like lay in bed or go lay on the couch. 

But now I just get a blanket and a tea or a glass of wine and I go sit in there and I watch my show with my headphones and he'll look back. You in here with me?

And I'm like, yep, I'll stay in here. He, I think he just wants that closeness. Yeah. So it's more of compromising like, okay, he wants this. What do I need to get done? Let's get it done. You've also taught me.

You don't have to have your house perfect every day. And I mean that by. I used to stress sitting on the couch of what needed to be done and like, kind of like taking a bath, just sitting and relaxing.

And I would really have a hard time. And my brain would just be going and going and going. And now I had to force myself. Right. I just sit down. And watch a show and I started actually crocheting again because of you, because I'm like, okay, this will help me sit. Relax my mind, but also keep my mind busy. Cause I'm moving my hands.

And now I don't have to crochet unless I want to. And I can sit on the couch and there can be toys on the floor. And my kids don't care if the toys are on the floor and they're happy.

And my husband doesn't care if the toys are on the floor. And it's like, I've learned to just. It's okay. Like you're with your family and we're having this time.

I don't want them to remember me as like the nagging mom who always needs everything perfect because life is not perfect. So you've taught me to practice.

Like don't clean that tomorrow, like, just let that be if you have to make your bed, make your bed, but don't clean up the toys in the living room tomorrow.

Like let them clean them up Thursday, like Thursdays, we clean the living room on Fridays. We're going to do this. Like.

And now it's really helped me like, like yet last night, we all cleaned the house today it's picked up and now I'm not going to deep clean like that again until next week, like it's okay to not have your house perfect all the time.

And we've had more time outside with them more we're doing that we're started our gardening and we do it together so it's just, I feel more present ost times, like, which is so nice. 

Corinne Powell: Right. Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah. And you're talking about a lot of ways that you're becoming more present with yourself and integrating back into your body, like being able to sit in stillness, or being able to do, see something that needs to be done and not take action immediately because you realize that's not what I should do.

So, are there practical ways you helped yourself reintegrate back into your own skin to feel safe within your own body.

Mariah Castico: I honestly…Like in the moments when I would just sense myself getting up there was even times where I would get up, and then I'd like what am I going to do, like, just sit back down, I would honestly just stand there as I'm standing, and I would just take like three deep breaths.

And sometimes I don't know why but like I just, I always feel like my shoulders are tense so I would just kind of like, put my hands on my shoulders and go down my arm and be like, all right, just sit down. All right.

And then I would just, I would like feel the tension, leave. I always get it like in my neck, so I would just like feel the tension leave or if I really felt anxious or something I would just go and do like a stretch on the floor in a playroom with the kids, and then like, try to relax, but I'm really like focusing in on just my mind and be like, Okay, what's the worst thing that's going to happen if this isn't clean.

Nothing is going to happen. And is the president coming to look in your living room tomorrow, now, like it doesn't matter you have boys, and you're there smiling. They don't care about that. Do I like my house a certain way. Of course I do. But it's not going to hurt me to have it a mess for a day. 

So I just slowly have been telling myself it's not lazy. It's just prioritizing things differently. Like I would be I would feel like I'm being lazy if I'm not cleaning. But I'm not being lazy. I'm being I'm choosing to be more present and I'm not lazy.

I'm just, if I… if my dishes are done every night, as long as the dishes are done and there's I don't care about the toys anymore.

It's just I haven't cleaned the playroom since April 9th for his birthday. His birthday party was the last time t I'm like, I don't I'm not going to do this.

So it's just let them be boys and let them play. And I just I just try to keep telling myself, like, you're safe, you're OK.

Like, just take a deep breath, sit down, read a book, go sit in the playroom, like and be with them, and just try to like not to stress about how there could be worse things than your toys on the floor.

But I feel like you teaching me to like tell myself that and just feel like, OK, my chest is kind of hurting a little bit or.

Like if something comes up and I start to feel anxious, just take a minute, take a deep breath. If I'm having like a tense conversation with someone like family member or anything like you don't always have to respond.

You don't have to have the last word. If you know the conversation is going to escalate, just end it there and you.

You're OK and you're safe, you're home like you don't have to continue a conversation that's not going to be healthy. For you, because it's it that doesn't matter.

Like your mental state matters more than just having the last say in a conversation sometimes. So sometimes when that happens, I'll just like I said, it's all right. Just take a deep breath.

You're safe. They're safe. OK, I'll call you later. Love you. Bye. And that's it. You don't have to keep doing things all the time. Yeah. 

Corinne Powell: Yeah, that's good because you're. You're changing the story, the narrative in your own mind over some of these things.

And that is very empowering to choose what perspective we're going to have, to choose what narrative we're going to tell ourselves. When you talked about, no, I'm not lazy.

It's OK to leave these items where they are. It's OK for me to do this thing for myself right now because we either decide to believe we're lazy. Or that taking breaks is necessary for our mental, physical and emotional well-being.

So I love I love that because you're talking about the body piece where you're connecting through breath and through touch with yourself. Like you're you're rubbing your arms.

I mean, these these are ways where we're connecting again with ourself. Right. We're feeling into, oh, oh, is my skin cool right now? Is it hot? Like we're we're noticing going on.

And then you're also working on the mind piece by. Countering the intrusive thoughts with something that's more positive or loving.

And I think that's really fabulous and a credit to you that you have put so much effort in because it's been less than a year that I first started seeing you. 

And here you are talking about. Several different changes and you haven't even seen me like week by week, just for anyone listening. You've just seen me here and there through sessions.

And yet you're talking about a lot of progress. So good for you. 

Mariah Castico: Well, it's because of you. The first time I honestly realized. Like my shoulders was in one of the group sessions. We were doing inner child. And I understand the concept of inner child. But I didn't understand. How to like, really. Like, what am I just talking to myself? Like, I didn't understand how they get deep into that. And you walked me through an instance of…when I didn't feel safe or when I felt like people were… I forget what the question was, but I remember not feeling safe as a child or something or want not wanting to cry because I have a hard time with the crying. 

Which I'm still working on. If I feel it, I try to just like. Relax my face and just like. Not hold it in, but it hasn't like burst it out yet, but we're getting there. Mm hmm. But, I remember it would being in like a school setting and you literally told me, okay, like if you see yourself, like envision yourself sitting in the desk and I'm like, okay, and I can see it.

And then you said, okay, what would you tell her? And I literally was like, I'd put my hand on her shoulder. And I felt that as I said that, like, I felt someone behind me as I was saying it. And I was like this.

This is what she's talking about. And that's the first time I felt my shoulders just go down and I'm like, okay. So like, that's why when I feel something, I kind of just like tap my shoulder and just like, I'll go like, like I'll pinch it or something and just like, it's fine. Like, fine. And that's the first time it clicked for me. Like, okay.

It's not really just, it is about talking through yourself through something, but it's more like envisioning an instance when you felt that way. Yeah. Like, okay. I feel this way, but when did I feel this way before? And like really taking.

That's when you've taught me, like, that's when you take the work, like think you're feeling insecure. Okay. What time have you ever felt insecure?

And like, just pausing for a minute and just thinking, really thinking about it for five minutes and then just be like, okay, like, all right, I got through that.

And then you continue on through the day and it might happen 10 more times from something else, but it's okay. And I, I'm trying to teach the boys, like Luke always cries and I'm like, it's okay to cry.

It's like, or if they fall, you're hurt. I'm trying to really, you've taught me as I see how you are as a mother and everything. Like I keep telling them it's okay to you're mad. You're mad that he took that. All right.

You can be mad, but we're not going to hit or, oh, you're, you're angry at me. Cause I said, no, all right. You could be angry at me, but the answer is no.

So I'm trying to let them know, like, I hear you and you have a right to feel that way. And I've noticed more as you hear, and it's not judging any other mothers or anything. I'm just saying like, I can hear, you know, family or people at the park, like, oh, stop, stop crying. You're fine. And now that bothers me when people say you're fine.

I don't, and it's not that I'm being judgmental at all, but I'm like, like I've never, I've said that a hundred times. And now I'm really trying to be like, like if they fall.

Oh, I do say like, it's okay. I'm right here. What's the matter? You hurt your knee. Does it hurt? Okay. That's okay. Yep. It hurts. Okay.

But I try not to make them, you know, it just, that really bothers me now when I hear people say things. 

Corinne Powell: Right. Right. Because it's so important to allow emotions to be expressed, to validate people's emotions. And you're doing a beautiful thing.

By saying you can be mad, but don't hurt. It's not okay to hurt him. Like you still have a limitation, a boundary, which children, which we all adapt to well, but you're also saying the expression of emotion is perfectly okay right now and normal.

So, yes. I mean, I also have a hard time, of course, when I hear people making it seem like someone shouldn't have a certain feeling.

Or, you know, sometimes I'll find with one of my kids and this child is a lot like me. And actually I can see that. And I think sometimes that makes it a little bit harder, but the more that I've grown to love myself and to heal my inner child, it actually helps me to love the child who's like me because I can see myself in different eyes.

But I have to be careful to not minimize that child's emotional experience because it can seem like too big sometimes. And I'm like, yeah, okay. All right. Like we're blowing this out of proportion. Except to them, it feels legitimate.

And, but again, I see it as a reflection of what I used to do or what, what was taught to me. Like people taught me that big emotions weren't okay. Like not that big. Come on.

You can have certain emotions, but not too big. 

Mariah Castico: Exactly. 

Corinne Powell: And so then I started believing that. And I've had a workout of that, but I see sometimes I still have a tendency to want to like say, do the same thing. Like, come on, let's.

Mariah Castico: I would do that with my oldest will keep crying after something. And like, now it's become a fake cry in my opinion. Like, “Okay. There's no more tears. I'm like, why are we crying? And I'm like, listen, you've cried a long time. You still have more in there?”

And then like, he'll laugh or something. Cause I'm like, I don't want to tell him to stop, but I'm like, “All right. Like you're perfectly fine now”. Like, you know, he's like half watching TV, half crying. So. 

Corinne Powell: Right. Right. So then, then you're being the loving wise adult. Who's helping him return to joy, which is also important to allow emotional expression. And then to help someone return to joy. Because we need both. And we need both models.

And we need both models. To us where somebody sits with us in our pain. And then they help us get from that painful place back to a joyful spot. So what you're doing is good. Like you're, you're not, you're, you're saying it to him. You're phrasing it in a way that isn't. You phrased it in a beautiful way. 

Mariah Castico: Not minimal. Yeah. I'm just like, you've got more? Oh, geez. 

Corinne Powell:  Right. Yeah. You know, like you were able to help him get to that point where he's like able to like kind of shake it off, which is good. Cause there is a balance.

There's a balance when we get stuck in negative emotions and we don't have anyone help us return to joy. That's detrimental. So it's this beautiful balance of embracing the emotions and then coming to that place where we can say, okay, and now I want to be able to feel the sunshine on my face. 

Like I sat under the rain cloud. I felt that cold rain. And I don't want to stay there now. So. Exactly. I love it. 

Mariah Castico: And you, you've taught me that like by what I do try to think of things to say like that is because you taught me like, like you just said, like sometimes your perspective of something isn't someone else's like that's their belief. That's how they are seeing what's happening right now. So it's helped me.

Like I say that to my husband all the time. Cause he's more like, all right, man, let's go. Come on. Let's go. And I'm like, that's not how he sees it. That's how you see it. Just kind of like, let him get through. And then like sometimes.

So even if he thinks like I'm being silly or, oh geez, here she goes, she's given into him or something. And sometimes I'll just walk away. Like, cause I think maybe he realizes, that’s how he sees it. 

Now in relationships, like family or friends, if they see something their own way, I’m just like, I could say my opinion - I won’t just say things, so I might say my opinion but then when the conversation ends and that was their view. That was how they believed that happen.

Corinne Powell: Right, yes. And that is a really good point you are bringing up cause you are not minimizing their experience or their perspective but you are also allowing yours to be yours. You are not having to change your perspective of things based off theirs, so…

Mariah Castico: Yeah, that has helped me a lot, cause I’m more like “this is what went down” and they are “no, this is what went down”. But then, we might start that way but in my head I’m like “okay, thats how they see it, they told me and I said mine so thats it”. 

There is no point we are gonna argue with someone, this is the way they see it and that's the way you see it. And that's something that really going to affect your life? 

You are just going to start talking about stories here. You like, if you are talking with your mom about a story, she sees in one way and you see in another. You are just talking about a memory or a story, is not affecting my life from now on. 

There is no point in continuing a conversation to try to change their view, that's their view. That's how they view it. I struggled with that before because I wanted them to see my view and they are trying to make me see their view, and it's like - we both have a view. We are looking on at two different windows at the same scenic view but there might be a pool in your way and there might be a billboard in my way.

We are seeing the same picture, it is just we are seeing it a little bit differently. So I just try to really, when it starts to escalate talking to anyone, just thinking “hey, this is how you see it, they will see it in their own way”.

Corinne Powell: Huh hum, yeah. So what would you say to someone listening who feels like they are in a place where they are not very satisfied with their life, they are not experiencing a lot of inner joy, inner peace, and what would you say to them?

Mariah Castico: I would probably say “We all been there and we all will be there again, it's just a constant rollercoaster really. You have to just wake up one day and take a really deep breath and just like find someone that you can confide in and that can help you positively.

I feel like you have been the person I needed at that time, to positively… and give me tools. Like “take deep breaths, feel your arms, talk it out, journal, stretch, do these things, and have someone that you can go do and talk to, like okay I’m really struggling to like this happen different than yesterday, what did I do wrong? What can I fix on that? 

Cause you can't do it alone, and sometimes and like you said you are just giving me the tools, I have to do the work. But if you have someone giving you the tools, you are gonna look at all the stuff on the floor and think “Where is the tools, how am I putting this together?” 

You have to have the instruction manual, I guess you would call it the instruction manual, and then everytime you don't follow the instructions is like oh this is backward, or you missed a screw. So when you have something to follow, it makes it a little bit easier and it makes you not feel alone because you …you don't feel…like I never felt embarrassed or judged and I learned so much to be uncomfortable for a second, and that is okay. 

I have reached out to friends I have not talked to in so long and new friendships were blooming, so I’m doing things out of my comfort zone and that uncomfortable moment, say something nice to somebody because it might make me feel weird inside, or just do that because life is too short to be sitting in this uncomfortable measurable state. You’re gonna have days when of course you are sad and tired and you are sleeping with your kids and you just want to get over with the day, but then is another day, you start fresh the next day.

You have somebody to talk to, to give you tools on how to get through it, its only gonna make it that much easier, than trying to do it on your own. So I would just say, find someone that you can be comfortable with and really do what's uncomfortable because then it won't be uncomfortable anymore.

Corinne Powell: Right, it gets easier over time, it really does. Well, that's awesome, I second that and I’m really proud of you for all the work you put in and I’m very happy with the results you’re getting, and for the things that are to come. But just like sitting in with what you experienced. Its really easy for me to hear it, it's super exciting cause Im like “Wow, really, all this”…this is sustained, this isn't just “Oh things started to change for you yesterday.  I heard you talk about something that we’ve talked about months ago, and I'm like oh it's sustained. That's so wonderful, so I’m really happy.

Mariah Castico: It's coming along. It's a day-to-day thing. 

Corinne Powell: Dont I know, you are right, the ups and downs, like you said a couple of different times, that's very honest, that's very real, there are the ups and downs, but if you can experience the moments that are beautiful, the moments when you are happy, at peace, its worth it. Because when we know we are living without that, even though we are always gonna have hard moments, it is so necessary to be able to experience the joyful, peaceful, moments. 

Those come to us, through doing the inner work and through changing our patterns, and …

Mariah Castico: I think that's what kept me going too, it was because you make friends with my youngest, who was just wanting me so much as a mom, he just wanted to be like “I need you”, sorry sorry it's my fault. But when I started to actually take the time and do the tools you taught me to do, I would see the joy, in what was going on, in what was happening When it gets hard again, it's a little bit easier, to deal with that moment, cause you already know what to do to make it come down. 

So when it happens you are not as tense, you might get tense but you are less tense cause you are like, “I know what I have to do now”. I have it. I probably did not spend as much time with him this morning as I should have, or I probably didn't involve him in doing this so he is extra cranky and I would say to blame yourself, but you know when you didn't do the right things, you see the outcome.

So you as hard on yourself, like “Why does he’s like this?” is oh because I didn't do this, I should’ve done that, my day would probably go better, and then you wake up and you are like, I’ll try harder today.

You know what to do, it makes it easier in the moment.

Corinne Powell: Yeah, knowledge is power, you are right. 

Mariah Castico: Exactly, so thank you for everything you’ve done.

Corinne Powell: You are welcome, it was a pleasure, truly. 

[Ending] We've come to the end. What did you think about what you heard? I hope that there's something you pull from today's episode and start implementing it into your life.

Create the change that you want to see, the change that you hear about. You have the opportunity to transform your life, and I'm ready to link arms with you and to help and guide you to the life that you want to live. 

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I hope that you have a wonderful week, but no matter what your week is like in the moments that are quiet. Maybe it's when you pillow your head at night, or when you're driving in the car or taking a walk. Or maybe it's going to be in the midst of the chaos with your children or the craziness of work. 

I hope that you'll remember how significant you are, that there is meaning and value to your life, and that I, for one am so glad that you're alive. 

Catch you again next week.